Elephant In The Room


What does “elephant in the room” mean? It is to ignore an obvious problem, or it’s failure to address an issue that stands out in a major way.

Example: As Jim was biking to work, a car drove through a puddle and splashed water all over him. He was soaked! Despite this, he continued on to work because he didn’t want to be late.

Shortly after arriving, Jim walked into a business meeting. While his clothes were still dripping wet, he sat down on an empty chair and acted as if nothing was wrong. So his boss turned to him and asked, “Jim, would you like to address the elephant in the room and tell us why you’re soaking wet?”

Synonyms / Related Phrases:
1. Sticks out like a sore thumb
An elephant in a room.
This elephant is in an office room. Please, take a seat right over—you know what, on second thought, you should probably remain standing.

The Origin of ‘Elephant In the Room’

The Idea Behind “An Elephant In the Room”

If an elephant were in your room, you would notice it. How could you not? It’d stick out like a sore thumb. After all, these mammals are the largest land animals on earth. They can grow up to 14 feet (4 m) tall and weigh up to 15,000 lb (7,000 kg). So an elephant in any type of room is not something that can easily be ignored.

This is thus used as a metaphor for when people are aware of a problem, but they choose to not acknowledge it. It’s as if there’s a giant animal in the room and they are intentionally ignoring it.

Its Origin

So then, where did this idiom come from? Unfortunately, its exact origin is unclear. However, it looks like this phrase is not that old; it’s a relatively recent one. The reason for this is because its earliest known appearance in print is the mid 20th century.

According to Wikipedia, the Oxford English Dictionary credits the New York Times newspaper from June 20th, 1959, as the first recorded use of this phrase as a simile. I tried to find a copy of the newspaper so I could confirm it for myself, but I was unable to do so. Anyways, there is apparently a line from it that reads:

“Financing schools has become a problem about equal to having an elephant in the living room. It’s so big you just can’t ignore it.”

Example Sentences

  • My brother sat down for dinner with a black eye. He didn’t want to tell us what happened, so there was an elephant in the room for the entirety of dinner.
  • Everyone at work thought that Dave was responsible for the mess in the bathroom. However, he addressed the elephant in the room by explaining to everyone how he had nothing to do with it.

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If you want another elephant related phrase, well, have you heard about the one that goes an elephant never forgets? If not, then head on over there and learn about its meaning and origin!

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