Between a Rock And a Hard Place


If a person is “between a rock and a hard place,” it means they are in a dilemma and the only two available options are both unsatisfying or bad.

Example: Maria was in a car accident. She’s okay, but the crash left a big dent on the side of her vehicle. She now has to make a tough decision: Maria can either spend what little money she has to have her car repaired, or she can leave it alone and just drive around with an unsightly dent in her vehicle. Since both options are undesirable, it could be said that Maria is between a rock and a hard place.

Synonyms / Related Phrases:
1. Between the hammer and the anvil
2. In a pickle
3. In a jam
A businessman between a rock and a hard place, difficult decisions.
This picture is analogous for what it’s sometimes like to be in a dilemma. It’s a hard spot to be in!

The Origin of ‘Between a Rock and a Hard Place’

It’s believed that the phrase “between a rock and a hard place” originated in the United States. According to The Phrase Finder, the earliest known citation of this idiom being used is from the year 1921, in the Dialect Notes V where it reads:

“To be between a rock and a hard place . . . To be bankrupt. Common in Arizona in recent panics; sporadic in California.”

Based on this quote, it looks like the expression meant ‘to be bankrupt’ at that time. This differs from the way it’s used today, which is ‘being in a dilemma.’

So then, when did this phrase start to be used with its modern meaning? The earliest I could it in print is from The Advertiser newspaper, 1930, where it reads:

“After that we were between a rock and a hard place. There was a lot of unpleasantness with Mr. Romanes, but by and by we see’d we couldn’t do nothing by fighting each other, so we shared out the grub, and took what we each thought was the best road off . . . mantelpiece.”

Examples For ‘Between a Rock And a Hard Place’

Short Example:

  • I don’t know if I should eat spaghetti or pizza for dinner. Since I can’t seem to decide which to have, I guess you could say I’m between a rock and a hard place.

Longer Example:

  • Mike made a scheduling error. He accidentally set up an important doctor’s appointment on the same day as his son’s first soccer game at school! So now he’s between a rock and a hard place. Will he cancel the doctor’s appointment, or will he miss his son’s first soccer game?

Note: The origin of some sayings and phrases are not known. However, you can still get an idea for how old they. How? Because the quotes on the idiom’s page are typically the oldest I can find. Take this phrase for example. The earliest appearance of it in print is 1921, so we know it’s at least about 100 years old.

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