Commonly said about two people who meet for a short time, share a few words, only to separate and continue on their way, never to see each other again.
Origin Of ‘Ships Passing In The Night’
The ocean is a big place, so what are the odds of two ships sailing directly past each other? I have no idea, but it’s probably not very high. If it does occur, though, and it happens to be at night, the ships may shine a light on the other in order to acknowledge the other’s presence. The shining of the light can be seen as a greeting, as if the ships are talking to one another, that is, until they pass and disappear into the darkness of the night, never to see the other again. Well, who knows, they might cross paths again at some point.
Anyways, this sort of ship passing situation, at some point, began to be applied to people who meet for the first time, only to part ways shortly after, disappearing into the vastness of the earth. Such people are like two ships passing at night.
The idiom at least over 150 years old. It is written in Tales of a Wayside Inn, by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow in 1863, where it reads:
“Ships that pass in the night, and speak each other in passing, Only a signal shown and a distant voice in the darkness; So on the ocean of life, we pass and speak one another, Only a look and a voice, then darkness again and a silence.”
- I met a girl today who was visiting from Canada, but she’s going back home soon and like two ships passing in the night, I don’t think I’ll see her again anytime soon.
- A few minutes ago, Jason had spoken to a nice man at the coffee shop, but he forgot to ask for the man’s name, so he returned. However, similar to ships that pass at night, Jason was unable to find where this man had gone.
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